How to forgive. All about forgiveness

You know how you can forgive someone but then they keep doing the same things to hurt you over and over again? Just how do you deal with that? And then you develop this bitterness toward them and you think it’s kind of justified because even if you forgive them one more time, they are just going to hurt you again. Because it’s not a case where simple forgiveness will work. Because you feel that for forgiveness to work, the aggressor has to change and stop deliberately hurting you. He/she must ask for forgiveness and prove they mean it by not repeating the offensive behaviour. If they do not do this then they do not deserve to be forgiven. Or let’s say you forgive them. Sincerely from the heart. And you let it go for real. Then one day they Read more

Safaricom vs Telkom vs Airtel

Is it a Kenyan thing, or is it just me? In my quest to enjoy the best of all possible worlds, and perhaps due to a little FOMO; I have Airtel, Safaricom, and Telkom telephone numbers and might just be joining Equitel or even Faiba if it suits me. 🙂 Well, given my rich experience as a multiple line owner, I had to review the big three mobile phone service providers: Voice/SMS Airtel is the network where your credit hardly ever runs out. This has been my experience for real because voice calls and sms are so affordable. I’m always happy to call somebody back because, as I’ve always told everyone, “credit yangu haiishangi” (my airtime never runs out) which is good for me and somehow good for them because it keeps me loyal. They started a price war which Read more

What Does Faith look like? What does it mean to have faith?

“I do believe; help me overcome my unbelief!” [Mark 9:24] This has been my prayer, no, it has been the cry that has consumed my entire being for the past 9 months. The cry that has been constantly in my mind, heart and on my lips and it had been getting increasingly desperate as the days went on by. Some major family issues coupled with my dad’s health situation had steadily began to weigh on my faith. All I wanted was for my dad to get better, to help him get better and when I saw that it wasn’t happening, I’d be like “God, why aren’t you with me on this? Kwani you don’t care?” I had taken my role as caregiver too personally and literally, that I began to feel like it’s my job to get my dad better. Read more

House-help chronicles part 2

I like writing about househelps (or domestic managers as they are now called) because let’s face it, they add a certain flavour, excitement or even drama to our daily living. From eating the baby’s cerelac, to entertaining male “friends” and wearing the employer’s clothing; their shenanigans are the stuff of Hollywood blockbusters. Love them or hate them, they are an important part of our modern city life. Here are a few types I have observed: Madam Appetite One lady in my hood had a househelp who, in the name of tasting the food she had just cooked, would eat a plateful of food, then at mealtime, eat another plateful. Especially on the days she cooked meat dishes, ha ha. I know it’s true because the local “CNN” always had the freshest 411 from every household as soon as it happened. Read more

Everybody needs good neighbours

Buruburu Estate has always been a pleasantly unassuming place – a kind of urban melting pot with all kinds of people from diverse backgrounds living together in harmony. For the most part anyways. There are always those neighbours who consistently test the limits of good neighbourliness because they do not want to adhere to community guidelines. These are the kind I want to write about today. Issa rant! First off, let me talk about individualism. The extreme kind that’s slowly creeping into our community life, threatening to turn neighbours into strangers and in the process kill the heart of our African culture. Back in the day, it was just as normal to be sent next door to borrow a few matchsticks, as it was to have a neighbour knock on your door asking for a cupful of sugar. Today, I Read more